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Psalm
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The
Unconscious Aspect of Emotional Trials |
Encountering Emotional Trials
with Faith |
Medication vs.
Self-Scrutiny |
Self-help
Recommendations
The Unconscious
Aspect of Emotional Trials
We know from scientific research
that the brain and the mind have a mutual influence on each other.
Medical research has taught us
that a hormonal imbalance, for example, can result in emotional symptoms,
and that correction of the hormonal imbalance through medication or surgery
can restore emotional stability.
Moreover, psychological research
has taught us that pure psychological activity, such as meditation and hypnosis,
can actually alter brain chemistry. Guided imagery and virtual reality, for
example, can effectively deaden pain reception in the brain.
Therefore, even though mental
disorders may have a
material cause in brain neurochemistry, they can also
have a
final cause in psychological activity. In regard to
depression and anxiety, this psychological activity usually centers around
feelings of anger and
guilt and
victimization.
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From a Christian
perspective, the root of anxiety is a lack of
trust in Gods providence, such that, when facing the unknown,
you worry endlessly about how to figure it out on your own. The
root of depression is a lack of trust in Gods
justice, such that when encountering any hurt
or insult you fall into a desire to take matters into your own hands
to get revenge, but, feeling helpless to overpower others, you turn your
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This means, therefore, that some
persons cling with unconscious determination to a childlike desire to make
their parents admit their mistakes. These persons use their own disability
as evidence of their parents failuresevidence to be thrown back
into their parents facesand, in so doing, they effectively reject
divine love for the savor of revenge.
What? you ask.
Revenge? Thats ridiculous. I dont want revenge. Im
past that.
Well, no one is past
the capacity for self-deception, and only when
you can be honest about your entanglement in the
unconscious can you extricate yourself from it. So,
if you truly were past revenge, you would do anything it takespay
any price and overcome any fearto be
healed, and then you would turn to your parents
and, as a gift of true love, offer to them your healing,
as evidence that, despite all their mistakes, they really didnt cripple
you after all. But by continuing in your self-sabotaging behavior you show
that you would prefer to send yourself to hell
just to prove to someone how much he has hurt you. Its simply impossible
to open yourself to Gods healing grace until you let go of the secret
hope that your own self-destruction will bring
you the sweet satisfaction of . . . well,
revenge.
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All that worry
and all that self-blame is rust on our souls that prevents us from getting
close to God. Its a self-limiting sort of dynamic that keeps us stuck
in our own unconscious despair. For no matter how many times you say,
Jesus, I trust in You! if you say the words only intellectually,
without deep and loving trust in God, those words will do no more to heal
your fear than a coat of paint can fix crumbling
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Encountering
Emotional Trials with Faith
So consider for a moment all
the emotional wounds that have afflicted you and compare it all to what happened
to Saint Paul:
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I am still more,
with far greater labors, far more imprisonments, far worse beatings, and
numerous brushes with death. Five times at the hands of the Jews I received
forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned,
three times I was shipwrecked, I passed a night and a day on the deep; on
frequent journeys, in dangers from rivers, dangers from robbers, dangers
from my own race, dangers from Gentiles, dangers in the city, dangers in
the wilderness, dangers at sea, dangers among false brothers; in toil and
hardship, through many sleepless nights, through hunger and thirst, through
frequent fastings, through cold and exposure. And apart from these things,
there is the daily pressure upon me of my anxiety for all the churches. Who
is weak, and I am not weak? Who is led to sin, and I am not indignant?
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No matter what happened to him,
Paul did not get depressed; he did not get PTSD; he did not stop working.
Why? Well, when he said, I have been crucified with Christ; yet I live,
no longer I, but Christ lives in me (Galatians 2:19b-20a), he wasnt
just speaking flowery poetryhe meant it, literally. He really was
dead to psychological conflicts
about pride and
revenge.
Of course, just like Saint Paul,
all those who live devout Christian lives will experience periods of uncertainty
and anguishall aspects of personal
suffering. Just look at the lives of the saints.
But, if everything is accepted with complete faith, none of it has to become
a psychiatric disorder.
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Consider it all
joy when you encounter various trials, for you know that the testing of your
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And thats true when you
have guidance in faith through the
Tradition of the Church and the spiritual nurturance
of the sacraments and devout prayer. But when you encounter
trials without the rock-solid stability of the
Church to guide you and are forced to use your own wits to survive (as in
dysfunctional families), then adversity commonly
leads to chaos and confusion.
Medication vs.
Self-scrutiny
Psychiatric
medication can be useful in some extreme casessuch
as
schizophrenia, bipolar
disorder, and severe episodes of
major depressionbut, for the most part, the
use of psychiatric medication primarily supports the secular scientific error
that you can feel better without having to alter your lifestyle
to assume moral responsibility for your life. Real
spiritual purification, however, demands a total change of
lifestyle, turning from worldly attachments
to embrace a moral and virtuous life through complete
dying to self in Christ.
So what can you do? Although
severe symptoms may require emergency medical treatment, spiritual direction
with someone who is also a qualified psychotherapist can help to uncover
psychological conflicts that block complete
trust in God. For example,
anxiety and
nightmares following a
trauma can often be the result of repressed
anger, and if the anger is resolved in a spiritual
context, rather than suppressed with medication, the psychiatric
disorder of
PTSD will resolve right along with the anger. Similarly,
depression is often the result of anger turned inwards;
it can derive from a desperate need for
social approval and a
self-condemnation for not receiving that approval.
But if you seek only the approval of Christ, not the world, you have no reason
for anger and no reason to condemn
yourself.
Self-help
Recommendations
Keeping in mind all that I said
above about depression and anxiety in general, consider the following specific
points:
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If you have a
depressed mood, then think of Christ
on the cross, hated and despised, and reflect on the fact that all who would
be Christians must suffer rejection by the world and die on the cross with
Christ, in order to be resurrected with him to everlasting life.
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If you have
excessive worry (called anxiety
in clinical terms), then say what the Church says every night at
Night PrayerInto your hands, Lord, I commend
my spiritas it is said in Psalm 31, just as Christ himself said
as he died on the Cross (Luke 23:46).
Remember, worry can
make nothing happen except disaster itself.
You might also practice
a physiological relaxation technique such as
Autogenics (from A Guide to Psychology and its
Practice). Once you learn how to relax and trust in your body on the
physical level, you can then turn to trust in God to free you from anxiety
on the spiritual level. A freewill relaxation
recording (true to the Catholic faith) from
this website can help you experience such trust.
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If you have
trouble sleeping (called insomnia
in clinical terms), then use the time to study and pray.
Study
the basics of the true Faith
by beginning with a cover-to-cover reading of the Catechism of the Catholic
Church, and continue by reading the Bible, the
writings of the saints, and the other books I
recommend.
Pray for the salvation
of souls. Make a list of friends, relatives, and categories of individuals
(all those souls who have ever hurt or betrayed you; all those souls who
defile the Holy Name; all heretics; all pagans; all the poor souls in danger
of hell who have no one to pray for them; etc.) and pray for their repentance
and conversion, saying the Chaplet of The Divine
Mercy for each person or group on your list.
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If you feel
fatigued, then think of Christ carrying
the cross and realize that his obedience to his mission
gave him the strength to continue.
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If you have a
loss of appetite or if you
overeat, then remind yourself that you
should hunger for nothing but the Body and Blood of Christ, and that, because
your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, you
must take good care of it, neither eating too little nor
overeating.
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If you have
feelings of extreme worthlessness or
guilt, then remind yourself that apart from Christ you are
worthless and deserve nothing but condemnation,
yet in Christ you are offered not only forgiveness but also a gift of glory
more valuable than can possibly be imagined.
When you live in
a state of sin, your own sins condemn you. But when
you live in a state of grace, through
chastity and
obedience, Christ will Himself protect you, and your
confidence, which will come from Him, can never be undermined, because Christ
can never be undermined: The gates of the netherworld shall not prevail
(Matthew 16:18).
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If you have
trouble concentrating, then say the following
simple, repetitive prayerThe Jesus Prayerwhile excluding all
other thoughts from your mind. (To exclude any images from
your mind, focus on the image of your own heart inflamed with love for God
and neighbor.)
Lord Jesus Christ,
Son of God, have mercy on us.
Coordinate the prayer
with your breathing. Say the first part (Lord Jesus Christ, Son of
God, ) while
inhaling, and say the second part (have mercy on us) while exhaling.
Note, too, that the more you say this prayer, the more the other symptoms
of depression and anxiety will dissolve as well.
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If you have a
lack of interest in usually enjoyable
things, then rejoice, for your Christian mission in life is not
to enjoy yourself but to proclaim the Gospel at all times by making constant
sacrifices for the salvation of other
souls.
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If you have
thoughts of death, remember that only
by dying to this world can we be born to
everlasting life, and that until God alone decides that our time here is
finished we must devote all our energy to hard work in his
service. So be honest with yourself here and recognize
that suicide is just a way of saying to God,
My willnot Thy willbe done.
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Jesus, I trust
in You!
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