cross is loved, it is easy to bear.
St. Teresa of Avila
Meditations on the Song of Songs, 2. 26
Spiritual Counsels |
The Way of the Cross |
A World Filled With Impiety |
Psychology and Spirituality |
Asking While Doubting |
Sacrifice, Obedience, and Prayer |
Where Has Love Gone? |
What You Can Do |
Increase My Faith |
With Trials As A Teacher |
Its That Simple
a devout Christian life, in general,
does not require any great intellectual skills. Christ, after all, had no
need for Plato and Aristotle in order to preach about surrendering to God
in pure love. True religion is a matter of heart
and will, not of reason. The essence of Christianity is not in feeling
good about ourselves or
feeling special because of
what we know or who we know or
who we think we are; the essence of Christianity is in sacrificing
ourselves in every moment through pure love
so that we, and others for whom we pray, might be saved from
sin. And, for that matter, thats why Christ
preached in parables: to bypass the intellect and pierce right into our hearts
In the Parable of the Sower
(Matthew 13:1-9; Mark 4:1-9; Luke 8:4-8), Christ poignantly described
what would happen to the very Word He preached.
Some persons, because of
indifference, ingratitude, and contempt, reject
the Word even as they hear it and refuse to believe.
Their hearts are like hard rock.
Some persons accept the Word
intellectually and think they believe. But when trials afflict them
they fly into a panic, abandon patience and
prayer, and attempt to get satisfaction and
revenge with their own handsall because they
have not set the roots of faith deep into their heart and will.
Some persons accept the Word
in faith but then allow the attractions of the world
to overgrow their lives and choke out the fruits of faith.
Christ also spoke about the
Parable of the Weeds among the Wheat (Matthew 13:24-30), in which
He described how evildoers and those who cause others to sin will co-exist
with the faithful until the final judgment when the weeds will be
A World Filled
So in todays worldfilled
as it is with anti-Christian lore and soaked in
impiety and heresyyou need to apply yourself
to some serious study and
prayer in order to disentangle the truth from all
the lies that have been sown over centuries of
disobedient self-indulgencelest you
end up in the fire with all the
Therefore, anyone who claims
that being a Christian in todays world is easy has sadly
failed to understand a basic point about Christianity: the world hates true
Christianity because Christ places restrictions on the worlds
The preacher of Gods
truth has told us that all who want to live righteously in Christ will suffer
persecution. If he spoke the truth and did not lie, the only exception to
this general statement is, I think, the person who either neglects, or does
not know how, to live temperately, justly and righteously in this
May you never be numbered among those whose house is peaceful, quiet and
free from care; those on whom the Lords chastisement does not descend;
those who live out their days in prosperity, and in the twinkling of an eye
will go down to hell.
From a letter by Saint Raymond
(Office of Readings, January 7: Raymond of Penyafort, Priest)
And, I will add, there are many
bishops and priests in the world today who, in the twinkling of an eye, will
go down to hell simply because they have neglected
Christs command to feed My sheepyes, they have been
feeding His sheep, but they have been feeding them to the wolves.
But do you really need a psychologist
to teach you how to live a Christian spiritual life? The truth is, you
Saint John of the Cross and Saint Teresa of Avila had uncanny psychological
insight into the workings of the mind and heart,
yet neither had any formal training in psychology, because psychology
didnt even exist as a science in their time.
This just goes to show that genuine
mystic spirituality ultimately leads to accurate psychological insight. And
it also shows that those who write or preach about
spirituality while misunderstanding psychologyas
in advocating a sentimental desire for happiness
and self-fulfillmentdont really
Psychological healing, therefore,
will be given to anyone who asks for it in prayer. But to be given what you
ask for requires that you must pray properly,
humbly and sincerely and in good
faith, through total
surrender to God and by
detaching yourself from the corrupt and evil
social world around you.
But if any of
you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly,
and he will be given it. But he should ask in faith, not doubting, for the
one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed about
by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything
from the Lord, since he is a man of two minds, unstable in all his
What, then, does it mean to ask
Well, realize that once you choose
to live a devout spiritual life you step onto a path that leads out of the
city and right to your own crucifixion. You have to walk out knowing you
will never come back. If you turn back, there
is nothing but hell. And if you begin to doubt
and hesitate and look to the world to entertain
you along the way, rest assured that the cross wont come to get
youbut the devil himself will soon show up, wearing a nice tuxedo,
holding the door to his limousine, just for you.
Many persons come to a psychologist
complaining of the pain they suffer at the hands of another. My friends
neglect me. Lovers abuse me. My husband is unfaithful. My wife is critical.
My children are disobedient. And most of them balk when they hear that
the only way they can find genuine healing is to
accept responsibility for their part in all the
suffering around them.
Except for very young
children abused by their parents (or other adults), no one is innocent
psychologically. We all share responsibility for everything
that happens around us. A wife may not have caused her husband to have an
affair, but perhaps she dreaded the warning signs along the way and shrank
back from doing anything about them. The teenage boy may not have caused
his abusive father to beat him, but perhaps, in his anger over his mothers
divorce, he provoked his father with
And so, whether through timidity
or through provocation, we contribute to the suffering around us. And we
dont like it when someone shows us that fact.
But Christ showed it to us
He showed it in His Body and
Blood; the Apostles proclaimed it; the mystics through the ages have confirmed
it: If we want peace in our hearts, we cannot escape our responsibility to
others around us. Remember My Passion, and if you do not believe My words,
at least believe My wounds.
Christ Himself took full
responsibility for the worlds suffering by taking it all on Himself.
And He called us to do the same. And we crucified Him for it.
Thus, for those who repent the
fact that during His bitter Passion we all tore at His Body and
Heart, only one trinitarian action can lead
to genuine healing and peace: sacrifice, obedience, and
can also be referred to as suffering, or fasting.
Fasting, in its literal sense, means to
do without our accustomed food so that in feeling physical hunger we might
be aware of the presence of God and recognize a spiritual hunger for holiness;
suffering, in its literal sense,
means to endure pain that we may have done nothing to deserve. But the broad
sense of sacrifice means that we must give up what we dont really
need, so as to give to others what they do need. In other words, we must
give up the psychological defenses that protect
us from feeling unloved by the social world so that we can give
true love to others. And so we must feel the pain
of all the sins of the world, including our own, and we must
bear that pain patiently, and we must offer our
patient acceptance of suffering as our own daily
fasting for our own sake and for the sake of all those souls who might
turn back to God because of our constant sacrifices for them.
You shall accept
all sufferings with love. Do not be afflicted if
your heart often experiences repugnance and dislike for sacrifice. All its
power rests in the will, and so these contrary feelings, far from lowering
the value of sacrifice in My eyes, will enhance it.
as told to Saint Faustina,
can also be thought of as our call to charity and mercy, for
Christ Himself, who in His love for us obediently
died on a cross for our redemption, commanded
us to love others as He has loved us.
refers to our unceasing communion with divine will. Because our lives belong
to God, not to ourselves, we must dwell in Gods presence in every moment
of our lives. We must pray constantly for Gods
mercy, for nothing else in life has any
enduring meaning. And we must pray for the
repentance and conversion of anyone who
injures or insults us, lest our lives remain stuck in bitterness and
Where Has Love
Ive seen it over and over
again, in church and in my office: people are all smiles and devotional behavior
on the surface, but once they are pushed the slightest bit against their
own will they become very hostile, very quickly.
In the church,
they hear about horrific tortures inflicted on the martyrsbeatings,
stabbings, bodies torn apart and burned. They pray to find strength from
the martyrs courage and to rejoice in the martyrs triumph. Then,
no sooner have they left the church than they experience a tiny pinprick
of an insult or inconvenience, and they fly into a rage. What happened to
the prayers that were on their lips just moments ago? Where have all the
martyrs gone? Where has love gone?
For most people, love is
just an intellectual concepta surface scratch. So understand that love
doesnt get real until, as an expression of sacrifice, obedience,
and prayer, it rips right into your
shopping for a spiritual life will inquire of the Catholic Church, This
wisdom and peace you offerhow much does it cost?
The reply is simple and straightforward:
Everything you haveall your heart, and all your soul, and all
your mind, and all your strength.
They shake their heads. No, thats too
expensive. We want something the ordinary person can afford.
What You Can
Heres what you can do,
then, to discover real love:
yourself. Do what Christ told us all
to do. Stop seeking your own pleasure and your own imaginary
identity; instead, follow the
spiritual counsels so that you will be in a proper
state of mind and heart to perceiveand receivethe graces that
God sends you. In this way you will be able to recognize and repent your
own sins while assisting others to recognize and repent their
When Christ and
the Apostles found themselves with only a few loaves of bread and one fish,
in the midst of thousands of hungry people, Christ could have said to the
Apostles, Just enjoy what you have; the others can fend for
themselves. But no. Instead, He proceeded to give away what He had
and, in the process, multiplied it. In a similar way, when you make sacrifices,
you dont deprive yourself of anything; instead, you multiply
to pray. As you pare away worldly
distractions, turn to prayer for true sustenance.
But understand that unless you learn to surrender
yourself totally, renounce your own desires,
and follow the discipline of both vocal and mental prayer, the answers to
your prayers will most likely be your own wish-fulfillment fantasies,
not Gods will. Prayer is not something to be taken casually, or your
unconscious psychology will lead you
Read and study
as if your life depended on it, because it does. You need to study the truth
so as to protect yourself from getting infected by the
indifference, ingratitude, and contempt of
the corrupt world around you. As you are learning
to pray, begin reading the Imitation of Christ. Read it straight through
once, quickly, but thereafter open it at random and read bits of it in depth,
as a sort of daily guidance, while reading the other books, including the
your sins. Be careful, though,
not to look just at the surface of things. For example, if you have troubling
sexual temptations, you might confess merely that
you have troubling sexual temptations. But if you study this website
and realize that troubling sexual temptations are
unconscious, psychological way to comfort yourself
when you feel weak or helpless or abandoned, then you can confess the
real problem: that you are prone to take matters into your own
hands when you feel weak or helpless or abandoned and that you avoid
bringing your fears directly to
not a psychologist, a priest will say. And well said; its a fact.
And its also a sad excuse to hide the mistakes priests make in preaching
and in directing the confessional process. The truth is, if more priests
would deny themselves and live ascetic lives then perhaps they might receive
the mystic gift of cardiognosisthe ability to read
heartswhich can compensate for a lack of formal psychological
humility. Understand love. Understand
that mystic Christianity is not a matter of knowledge for its own sake. It
is not a matter of intellectual prowess or of philosophy. It is not a matter
of arguing with others. It is not a matter of displaying your holiness for
others to see and admire. It is not a matter of visions and ecstasies. It
is simply a matter of emptiness of self and pure
love. Holiness is measured not with
spiritual feelings but with
To be taken with
love for a soul, God does not look on its greatness, but on the greatness
of its humility.
St. John of the Cross
The Sayings of Light and Love, no. 103.
You can see visions, hear locutions,
and pray in tongues, but what good are these
things if they do not lead you into ever deeper
humility and ever greater acts of suffering and
self-sacrifice for the sake of mercy to others?
See yourself, then, as a nobody.
Put yourself at the service of all. Give all you have and be a living example
of that divine grace and glory you most ardently desire. Feel the pain and
the sadness of all the sin in the world around you,
but do not pay attention to what others
dofocus instead on your own yearning for chaste and humble purity
of heart. For just as sin is the punishment of sin, love is the reward of
Above all the graces and
all the gifts of the Holy Spirit which Christ grants to His friends, is the
grace of overcoming oneself, and accepting willingly, out of love for Christ,
all suffering, injury, discomfort and contempt; for in all other gifts of
God we cannot glory, seeing they proceed not from ourselves but from God,
according to the words of the Apostle, What hast thou that thou hast
not received from God? and if thou hast received it, why dost thou glory
as if thou hadst not received it? But in the cross of tribulation and
affliction we may glory, because, as the Apostle says again, I will
not glory save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Little Flowers of St. Francis of Assisi
Just realize, though, that none
of this comes easily. If you pray, Lord, increase my faith,
dont expect God to magically anoint you
with a large dose of faith. Instead, you will have
affliction after affliction heaped upon your head, and as you graciously
cope with it all through loving perseverance,
you will emerge from the struggle to find that your
faith has, indeed, increased.
With Trials as
You might wonder why some persons
grow to such great spiritual heights and why others make so little progress.
Well, Saint John of the Cross explains it.
And here it ought to be pointed
out why so few reach this high state of perfect union with God. It should
be known that the reason is not that God wishes only a few of these spirits
to be so elevated; He would rather want all to be perfect, but He finds few
vessels that will endure so lofty and sublime a work. . . .
There are many who desire to advance and persistently beseech God to bring
them to this state of perfection. Yet when God wills to conduct them through
the initial trials and mortifications, as is necessary, they are unwilling
to suffer them and they shun them, flee from the narrow road of life [Mt.
7:14] and seek the broad road of their own consolation, which is that of
their own perdition [Mt. 7:13]; thus they do not allow God to begin to grant
their petition. They are like useless containers, for although they desire
to reach the state of the perfect they do not want to be guided by the path
of trials that leads to it.
of the Cross
Flame of Love, Stanza 2.27
Its That Simple
Its that simpleand
that demanding. Which is why you will see so many Christians
happily waving to you from their limos as they ride by.
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