not certain I could live up to the standards of living you have mentioned.
Im wondering if you have to be born inherently good in order to live
that righteously. (That feels like too strong a word, but the only one that
comes to mind.)
e are all born inherently good.
That’s a truth fundamental to Catholic theology. In order to live righteously,
all we have to do is keep before ourselves at all times the
desire to learn to live righteously. God does
not ask us to be perfect; He just wants us to dedicate ourselves to learning
how to live a holy life.
If you make this simple decision
to learn from everything, even your mistakes, you will not be
be afraid of making mistakes,
and you will find that in due time you will want to do anything it takes to
live in holiness. Make your best effort, then God will guide you.
Do your best
and let God do the rest.
The process is like tending a
garden—in this case, the garden of baptismal grace—lest it go to weeds. The
process begins with a humble willingness to learn from your mistakes without
blaming others or hating yourself. Then it continues by your resolving to cherish
the sacraments, to detach yourself from the impiety of the social world around
you, to care for your body and clothe it with chaste modesty,
to pray constantly for your good and the good of others,
to maintain a moment-by-moment awareness of the presence of God, and to be
grateful for all that God gives you. With
these resolutions in place, you will receive the grace to be aware of
temptations to commit sin and the courage to resist them.
Saints are Made,
Keep in mind that Christ chose
tax collectors, zealots, and unsophisticated fishermen for his Apostles to
prove to us that even the most wretched of sinners
can become saints.
Saint Paul, before he became a
Christian, was a murderer. He murdered Christians, and still he became a saint,
one of the greatest of all saints.
This points to the great mystery
of Gods love for us: in spite of what we deserve, God does not condemn
us to what we really deserve. A murderer like Saul, a tax collector like
Matthew, and a proud, sluttish celebrity like Mary
Magdalene all became saints to prove that no one has to be perfect to
open the heart to Gods love and step onto the path to sainthood. Such is
the awesome depth of Gods mercy.
Saints, therefore, are not born
holy. Moreover, sinners are not born evil. Our social experiences in the womb,
in infancy, in childhood, and throughout life shape our
Wounded by Family
Sadly, many persons have been
so wounded as children by family dysfunction
that they have come to believe they are
garbage and deserve nothing but condemnation;
however much they might intellectually want growth and
healing, deep in their hearts they
fear any change and resist it. Moreover, behind this
resistance to change is an unconscious resentment at
their parents for having failed in real love, and this resentment works
unconsciously to obstruct any spiritual
can do anything for the love of God; the question, therefore, is not whether
you can do it, but whether you want to do it. When youre
angry at God, you wont want to do anything. And why would you
be angry at God? Well, youre angry at your
parents for being hypocrites, and youre
angry at God because, in your opinion, He didnt stop your parents from being
So, when your
parents fail in their faith, you will hold secret grudges against both them
and God. Any disobedience you show your parents
will be your revenge on them for their parental failures.
Similarly, a lack of spiritual growth is a form of revenge on God. Essentially,
your continued psychological dysfunction and your lack of spiritual progress is
your secret revenge at everyone.
Many persons claim
that they don’t have any anger at their parents, but their lack of spiritual
growth proves otherwise; they are saturated with
unconscious anger. A common
reason for this dilemma is a child’s hiding the anger by not wanting to see it
or talk about it so as to protect the parents; that is, the child sees that the
parents do some good, so anger at the parents’ failures seems unjustified,
causing the child to feel guilty and bad for even daring to say that the
parents have failed in love. The sad irony is that hiding the anger doesn’t
heal it; it only keeps the anger alive in the shadows where it feeds resentment
The Spark of
Hope and Love
Still, in spite of this unconscious
fear and resentment, a small spark of hope and love can always be found in
every soul. Do whatever you can now, according to your present capacity for
love. Any attempts you make will allow some
healing water to nourish your soul. Be
patient, and dont try to do everything
The ancient Greek
philosopher Aristotle taught that if you want to acquire a certain
quality, then begin by acting like others who have that quality, and
eventually you will develop that
In the same way,
if you want to climb out of your mental and spiritual stagnation and live
a holy life, then start by doing the things that constitute a holy life.
All that holds you back is your unconscious pride
and spiritual blindness: your continued satisfaction
of defending your own self-interests at the
expense of others. In this pathetic state, you wont even know what
But you dont
have to wait until you
feel faith before you can follow the spiritual counsels.
Just do them anyway; sow their seeds
within your soul and soon you will be surprised to see some awesome new growth
filling in the bare spots left by your pride. As the growth continues and
strengthens, pride itself will wither and be overgrown by
spiritual counsels on this website arent
really things you have to do, they are things that any soul in love
with God would desperately want to do. Why? Because
self-restraint helps to lift the psychological
defenses that prevent Gods graces from
sinking into us; with those defenses stripped away, the living waters of
salvation can finally reach our thirsty souls. So its simple: the more
you restrain your desire for self-satisfaction
and complacency, the more your soul grows in holiness.
For example, if you cant
keep all of the Liturgy of the Hours, then say just
the Evening Prayer when you get home from work, instead of having a glass
of wine and watching TV to calm your nerves. If you cant throw away
your TV completely, then cut away one hour of viewing each day and pray the
Rosary during that time. If you cant eat simple
vegetarian foods for every meal, then at least avoid meat on Wednesdays and
Fridays, traditional fasting days. If you cant do without make-up every
day, then do without it at least on Sundays. And so on. Just do what you
can; as your ability to love begins to grow, your ability to do things for
the sake of love will also grow.
With Trials as
You might wonder why some persons
grow to such great spiritual heights and why others make so little progress.
Well, Saint John of the Cross explains it.
And here it ought to be pointed
out why so few reach this high state of perfect union with God. It should
be known that the reason is not that God wishes only a few of these spirits
to be so elevated; He would rather want all to be perfect, but He finds few
vessels that will endure so lofty and sublime a work. . . .
There are many who desire to advance and persistently beseech God to bring
them to this state of perfection. Yet when God wills to conduct them through
the initial trials and mortifications, as is necessary, they are unwilling
to suffer them and they shun them, flee from the narrow road of life [Mt.
7:14] and seek the broad road of their own consolation, which is that of
their own perdition [Mt. 7:13]; thus they do not allow God to begin to grant
their petition. They are like useless containers, for although they desire
to reach the state of the perfect they do not want to be guided by the path
of trials that leads to it.
of the Cross
Flame of Love, Stanza 2.27
Prayers For Hope
LORD, rescue me in Your mercy;
protect me in Your love.
Have mercy on me, Lord, for my spirit is oppressed by lies and deceit,
my body is racked with pain,
and my soul is troubled and anguished.
But You, O God . . . how long before You rebuke the wicked?
Lord, rescue my soul.
In Your love deliver me from evil.
I am exhausted with my groaning;
every night I drench my pillow with tears;
I bedew my bed with weeping.
My eyes waste away with grief;
I am surrounded by foes.
Let the wicked flee before You;
my weeping calls for Your help, O God,
and my sorrowful cry for justice echoes throughout Heaven.
Accept my prayer, that my enemies will fall into confusion,
foiled and confounded.
Psalm 10 (II)
Arise then, Lord, send forth your light and your truth!
O God, protect the faithful!
With brazen arrogance the wicked spurn You, their Lord,
and think in their hearts, “There is no supreme accountability.”
But You regard the trouble and sorrow;
You note it and keep an account.
I entrust myself to You,
for You are my helper and the helper of all the faithful.
Those who place their trust in You shall understand truth,
and they shall abide with You in love;
but the wicked perish by the poison they have prepared for others.
Lord, receive my prayer and the prayers of all the faithful;
strengthen my heart and protect my rights,
that my enemies’ power to afflict terror will be crushed.
Lord, have mercy and attend to my woeful plight;
agents of sedition have conspired ruthless plots to promulgate evil.
—In Your justice, rescue me and deliver me.
Lord, I beseech You, scatter the lies and threats of my enemies.
I, for my part, will uphold the truth with fearlessness.
—In Your Real Presence, there is love,
and there is my hope.
Adapted from Psalms 6 and 10, Daniel 9:18,
Acts 4:29, and Wisdom 3:9–11
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1. Hearing it said that God will give us what
we ask for, children tend to believe that, if they pray for it, God will
control the behavior of other persons. Because they do not understand that
a literal answer to their prayers would be a violation of the
free will of others, the children get angry
at God when He doesnt make others change their behavior.
2. Nicomachean Ethics, II:1.
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Psychological defenses help to protect us from
emotional injury, but if you cling to the defense mechanisms that were created in your
childhood and carry them on into adulthood—as most everyone does unconsciously—your quest
for spiritual healing will be thwarted by overwhelming resentments and conflicts.
Still, God has been trying to show you that there is more to life than resentment and
conflict, something so beautiful and desirable that only one thing can resist its pull:
So now, and in every moment until you die, you will have a profound choice between your
enslavement to old defenses and the beauty of God. That decision has to come from you.
You will go where you desire.